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Graceful Perseverance: "Inside Out" - "Right Side Out"

Posted June 19th, 2014 @ 10:06pm

Inside out, right side out...do you remember growing up and your parents telling you that you had your shirt inside out? Well, they were attempting  to teach you to dress correctly right? Do you remember doing the same with your own children? A parental teaching passed down from generation to generation so that we were always presentable and respectable in public at all times. But let's think about that from a different angle.We Are What We Think Concept When we think about turning our "insides out," "right side out" relative to our thoughts, beliefs and feelings it takes on a very similar life example now that we are adults.

The way I feel about myself is reflected on the outside, which is always visible to others. My right side is always out. Hopefully I am demonstrating a confident woman, a woman who loves herself, a woman who is positive and filled with joy and happiness from the inside out because this is truly how I feel about myself. This is my "right side out." Are you happyIf our right sides are out, we are loving others as we love ourselves. We are "Doing unto others as we would have them do unto us." We are treating others with the respect and admiration that we expect others to show us, right? Is this how you are living your life today? If not, then as for all of us, it's always a choice to live this way or not. To make this life change first requires us to examine our core beliefs.

At a very young age, 0-6, our core beliefs are developed. These core beliefs are instilled and then stored in our sub-conscious. These early beliefs about ourselves are parental influences from childhood. If we were taught and told daily that we were a worthless child, stupid and would never amount to anything, it is these negative beliefs from someone else engrained in our sub-conscious as a child. Positive vs negativeMaybe we grew up only knowing physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Then as we grew up, these self-beliefs still remained in our sub-conscious. These beliefs will always make their way to the surface as an adult when we find ourselves in a similar threatening situation when someone in our adult life is showing us the same disrespect as what we experienced as a child, which means these core beliefs are no longer dormant in our sub-conscious. These core beliefs are now awake and have made their way to the surface as a result of a similar emotional experiences from childhood. Then these adult experiences become the triggers that stir up our core beliefs.

New Life text on cloudsSo knowing this realization and understanding this perception of what is going on around us, what do we do with this information? What do we do when our core beliefs are triggered today? Awareness is the first step to change. Acceptance is the second step. And thirdly, "Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything or anyone that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy" - Unknown.

It was best said by Eckhart Tolle "Accept -then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it...This will miraculously transform your whole life." Once you identify a pattern in your life when others disrespect you and say malice and hurtful things to you, it will trigger any negative core beliefs you have about yourself. how to change your life

Remember, you can't change them, you can only change your triggers. A good Facebook quote worth citing is "Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself - Unknown.

Wisdom tells me we are all like magnets and we attract what we think of ourselves in order for us to then evolve into the person we desire to be. It is you and only you who can choose to erase your old core beliefs about yourself and rewrite these core beliefs to be more like "I do love and respect myself." "I am worthy and lovable." "I am in control of my life, not others." "Only when I love myself from the inside out, will my right side shining outward." "I will F.L.Y, first love myself."

Only you can rewrite your core beliefs. What your mother or father instilled in you as a young child, your original core beliefs, is no longer helpful or useful in your life today. Maya Angelou said "If you stay true to who you are...then the world will embrace you." My new life

Use this affirmation to rewrite your core beliefs that are untrue and serve absolutely no purpose or value today.

"God DESIGNED me, CREATED me, BLESSES me, HEALS me, DEFENDS me, UNDERSTANDS me, FORGIVES me and LOVES me."

Jesus Loves MeGod Bless until next week!

Debra M. Pauli

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