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Graceful Perseverance: The Power of Christian Love

Posted May 6th, 2018 @ 09:05am

Welcome to this week's blog. What legacy do you want to be remembered for? What do you want to pass down to your sons and daughters and their offspring long after you have returned home, your eternal resting place?

I want to leave Christian Love behind for those who knew me and remember me by the love I demonstrated throughout my life. They will know me and remember me by the way I loved my fellow man. Some days this idea feels like a tall order to fill, and can often feel overwhelming, but surely, I know I am not alone in this endeavor, for the Lord is with me. Nothing in this world gives me greater joy than to become more and more like Jesus every day and to be remembered by my acts of Christian love.

First John tells us that if we are truly Christians who have accepted Christ, and genuinely trust Christ as our Savior, this evidence  will be manifested through our love for others. First John 3:14 tells us "We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love each other. Anyone who does not love remains in death." And in 1 John 3:18 it tells us, "Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth."

How clearly do our actions say we really love others? The greatest act of love is giving oneself for others. How do we show Christian love to others? How do we lay down our lives for others? How do we serve others without expecting something in return? The old cliché is "I would lay down and die for you!" But in truth, it would be harder to live for them than to die for them.

Real love is not a feeling, it's an action. It produces a selfless act of kindness towards another fellow man. This type of love, a biblical love, motivates us to put others' desires before our own. This is a principle Jesus not only taught to his disciples, but also throughout scripture, and continues to demand from each of us today, even 2,000 years later.

With hometown conversations in the coffee shop, passers-by on the street corner, within my church fellowship family and within my family and friend circles, they will all know and remember me by my Christian love.

When I pray for and love others unconditionally, I display a steadfast faith in Christ that is noticeable by all. I can call myself a child of God when I extend myself to others in love. Ephesians 4:2 - With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.

There are three essential commands from Jesus:

  1. Believe in Christ
  2. Love thy brothers and sisters
  3. Live moral and upright lives

There are also four other moral principles I choose to live by: prayer, acquiring the understanding of biblical reasons for hope, becoming the salt and the light for Jesus and sharing the gospel with others.

What does Jesus say in scripture about Christian love?

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love.  If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love.

These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.

You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. These things I command you, so that you will love one another. - John 15:9-17.

Blessings until next week,

Debra Pauli

Unstoppable Believer

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Graceful Perseverance: A Cross at the Side of the Road

Posted April 22nd, 2018 @ 07:04am

Welcome back everyone to this week's blog. Yesterday, 4/21, was my 3rd son's birthday. He would have been 34 this year, but has been celebrating his birthday in Heaven since 2005. Happy Birthday Bryce Lee. Mamma loves you son!

This week seemed appropriate to write about the cross at the side of the road, where a mother loses her son long before his time. Yes, for those of you who know me on an personal level, July 21, 2015 will be the 13th anniversary of Bryce Lee return to home.

Thirteen years have passed since I had written my third book in the memory of Bryce to help grieving parents and families cope with the many levels of pain that death's suffering leaves behind.

"Why we Cry for a Soul set Free" is the story of how I dealt with the death of my third child, one of the most traumatic experiences a parent can go through. Bryce Lee Haugen was the third of my four sons and the bravest human being I've ever known. Bryce was my special child; he had been diagnosed with epilepsy and mild mental retardation at a very young age. With his limitations, his life was a challenging one, but despite the treatment he sometimes received from those who couldn't accept or understand him, he always looked at life in a positive way and loved people unconditionally.

Aside from the book I wrote in 2005, there has been tremendous healing and transformation that has taken place in our family since that day. In this blog I am not going to write about the powerful message you get from my book because each of you can read the book and gain your own perspective. But what I did want to emphasize in this week's blog is the common practice of "no helmet" while riding four wheelers, motorcycles, dirt bikes, scooters, mopeds, any motorized vehicle and the important message I have for all of you, whether you are the driver or the passenger in any of these situations. Truthfully, Bryce was not wearing a helmet when riding his four wheeler, but if he had, I know without a doubt that he would still be with us today.

In this world there is such a heavy emphasis on "status symbols". What I mean by this is just this, we as humans consciously believe that the home we live in, what we drive, our job title, not the richness of our soul, but the richness of our bank account, the clothes we wear and who are social circle happens to be are all "status symbols" that we use to compare ourselves to others, to judge each other, and what we see as "important stuff" rather than "unimportant stuff". Actually because we get so fixated on the status symbols of this world our souls shrink and life becomes this big masquerade, and all of us us are simply "actors on stage" worrying about what our outside looks like, without concentrating on fixing the inside.

I've seen this too many times...if not most of the time. Bikers on Harly's who are pimped out in leather chaps, biker's gear that makes them look "cool" on their bikes - and every time it's without a helmet. Helmets don't fit into the dress code when riding a motorcycle because helmets don't make us look cool on our I wrong? This is a prime example of "status symbols" where we worry more about what we look like on the outside, rather than what we look like on the inside. And as a result of concentrating only on our outward appearance, we jeopardize our physical safety so we look good and impress others. And then when a tragic accidents occur such as Bryce's or on a motorcycle due to the fact that they weren't wearing helmets, everybody scratches their heads in awe and wonders how in the world something like this could happen.

Yes, my son was in a tragic four wheeler accident, along with two other vehicles on a major highway without a wearing a helmet. And the crazy part of that is everyone walked away without a scratch except for Bryce. Did he own a helmet? Yes, years prior to his accident I bought him one and insisted that he wear it. Did he wear it consistently when he rode his four wheeler? No. And the reason was because he was teased and made fun of by others when he did put it on. So again, my son was vulnerable to what society considers important - status symbols and not looking like a dork.

As a result of falling victim to the weight of the world, my son's life ended before his time. He died twelve hours later at St. Mary's Hospital in Rochester, Minnesota from a very horrific highway accident due to the simple fact that he was not wearing his helmet.

When the phone rang that July evening to tell me my twenty-one year old son was fighting for his life, my heart was shattered into a million pieces within seconds. While the rest of the world was sleeping peacefully, Bryce was fighting for his life. Despite twelve hours of intense medical attention by a staff at the Mayo Clinic and St. Mary's Hospital professionals, Bryce died from "cerebral edema with herniation" on July 21, 2005 at 6:30 p.m., a time that will be forever instilled in the memories of my family. We had lost a son, a brother, a loved one.

If you get nothing else out of my blog this week...please, I pray that all of you will take the initiative and enforce a helmet anytime you have the influence or authority with family and friends and even strangers...Trust me, you do not want to visit a cross on the side of a road or a cemetery in order to express your love to someone who has lost their life before their time. After the tragic that my family had endured, would you please listen to my words and the pain of my heart to please put on the helmets before's a choice that each of us has, and it will not only preserve lives, but will allow loved ones to remain here on earth without being forced to leave before their time.

Blessings until next week,

Debra M. Pauli

Unstoppable Believer

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Graceful Perseverance: Where is God?

Posted April 15th, 2018 @ 10:04am

Welcome back to my Sunday blogs everyone! Cup of coffeeTo date, there are 289,311 followers of my faith based blogs. How exciting leading into the second quarter of 2018 and inspiring this many people around the world.

It is my hope that everyone had a very blessed Easter season! It's mid-April, a new season the Lord has blessed upon each of us. How awesome that He has given us another year to do His work. What is it that the Lord has put upon your heart to do for His glory this year? How has your relationship grown with the Lord, our Savior, so far this year? How will you praise Him? Will you let Him into your life for the first time or continue to grow your relationship with Him? Will you become a light in this jaded world? These are my words of encouragement for you today.

Here's how the Lord wrapped up in the past year of my life. As a self-publishing author and speaker since 2003, I have published my 6th book, a faith based book you can curl up with in your favorite chair in front of the fireplace, with lit candles all around you to add to the ambiance to set the mood to read a powerful testimony of conviction of Where is God? a faith and hope based book of encouragement.January blog 2016

In this book I have expressed my innermost feelings about various personal issues that have permeated my life. I have experienced many traumas that most people have never experienced and perhaps, may never in their lifetime.  Yet, with my tragedies behind me, I have come to be a blessed child in Christ Jesus.  I confess to you today, I stand at the foot of the cross because He is my light, my strength, my spirit and where hope is found even in the darkest and stormiest corners of my life. I turn to the cross to calm my fears and my contention. The power of the cross fills the depths of me with peace and brings me comfort because it is when I stand at the foot of the cross I find myself enriched by the love of Christ. The power of the cross is His gift of love and righteousness.IMG_20150822_192923804

There are six parts to this book, each filled with a power message. Each page is filled with inspiration for all of us, followed by chapter scripture relative to each section of the book. In each chapter, I reveal a message from my soul all of us need to embrace. I chose not to walk the path of destruction. I love Christ very deeply and as a result wish to share my deep-rooted relationship with all of you. I know all too well that God is alive, and I am inspiring each of us to turn to Him, to trust Him, and to follow His plan for our lives. I inspire you to vehemently turn away from your own understanding and probably false perceptions and your worldly biased opinions of our secular society and turn to the Lord today.

Until next week's blog, go to to see my other faith based books or email me at as we are all in this thing called life together. Each week and with each book, it is my intent to encourage each of you, pray for all and continue to change lives one book at a time.

My prayer for you - May God bless you and keep you. May His face shine upon you and give you grace. May you go about your day and everything you do, you do in the name of our Lord and Savior, Amen.

Other books published by Debra Pauli:

  1. Where is God?, a testimony of conviction (2015)
  2. Once Upon a Man, frog or prince (2013)
  3. Saving 3 Leaves on a Tree, me, myself and I (published TBD) (2006)
  4. Why We Cry for a Soul Set Free, in loving memory of Bryce Lee (2005)
  5. “...and then there was LIGHT”, my spiritual cleansing (2nd Edition) (2004)
  6. A Survivor’s Closet, how my memories as a little girl became the diary of one of the most horrific, severe child abuse stories in Missouri history (2003)

Debra's self-publishing timeline: 2015, 2013, 2006, 2005, 2004, 2003

5books 2016

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